I respect and admire this young man for his courage in sharing and also believe many things he said. Near the end of his time, he said "God will not give us anything we can't handle." At one time (probably many, actually) I am sure I have said this. But I've come to believe that this statement is false--or rather, not the whole, truthful story.
God has given me many things that I can't handle. From experience, I have come to know that God gives me MORE than I can handle. This is what brings me to Him and His Son. This is the miracle of the Atonement. We can't make it on our own, and wherever we are on our own personal journeys, Christ meets us and makes up the difference.
Maybe realizing the error in the phrase "God won't give me anything I can't handle" is something that I missed the boat on a while ago and everyone is nodding and metaphorically patting my hand. Regardless, I want to share that I've realized that when I think this, or when it is preached, it enables (unhealthily) the mindset that I can do this thing called life on my own. FALSE. Letting go of this phrase and embracing the phrase that "God will give me more" has been incredibly liberating. It enables me (this time, healthily) to admit my weaknesses and move forward with more trust and faith because it changes how I look at life experiences.
Nephi writes that "the Lord giveth no commandment unto the children of men save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them."
Acknowledging from the beginning that this will probably be something I can't do on my own encourages me to include my Father and Savior much earlier on in the process. When I experience my own weaknesses I feel vulnerable and get down on myself, but not for as long as I did before--because the pressure of "handling it on my own" is gone. As I lie in bed, tears rolling to the pillow, I give myself freedom to be real with Father about how hard it is and allow my heart to be softened, and many times broken. Knowing that it is the plan for Him to "give me more" and that He has prepared a way of healing for me, then brings me peace in that moment of brokenness--peace that healing will come eventually.
The beautiful parallel meaning to this phrase "He gives us more" is that when the healing and blessings that eventually come, they are so much MORE than we can even imagine. More than we can even hold. As Christ, through His Atonement, enables us to bear great trials, He also enables us to bear great joy.
In times when my heart is broken and it's more than I can handle, I hold fast to that promise, that inherent meaning in the law of equal and opposites-- that great healing and joy is coming.
And I gratefully rejoice that it will be so much more than I can handle.